Seven Year Switch

I have a confession to make ... I totally got sucked into watching "Seven Year Switch". Last night was the last episode of the experiment where the couples decided if they were going to stay together or to split.

I sat watching it like one would watch an impending train crash, unable to look away. I couldn't believe that at the end of it all, the amount of blame that was being placed on the other partner (in most of the relationship scenarios) nor the conditions that were surrounding them staying together.

When did love become a bargaining tool?
When did it become "If you do this, the way I like it, the way I think is right, then I will love you?"
When did love become so conditional?

No one was taking any responsibility for themselves and their behaviour. It was still such a blame game. I'm not quite sure what they learned during the course of the experiment or perhaps it's just what the producer chose to show us as a reflection of the experiment - who knows.

Some things I have learned about love and relationships (and am continuing to learn, as it's a process and a journey, not a start/finish point and am by no means an expert in this area)

* Love starts, happens and finishes with you
* The quality of the relationship you have with yourself will determine the quality of all other relationships in your life
* Real Love is limitless and unconditional
* You cannot rely on someone else to fulfill a need within you that you are not prepared to work on and mend for yourself first
* That which you see in your partner (positive and negative attributes) are a direct reflection of what you are able to see within yourself. So if you are constantly whinging and complaining about your partner, perhaps it's time to take a closer look in the mirror.
* Quality communication is fundamental in all relationships
* Nothing has meaning except for the meaning which we choose to give it

Big love to you all, wherever you are and whatever you are doing today heart emoticonheart emoticon