Wednesday 6 October 2021
The Art of Becoming Unbusy
Wednesday 28 April 2021
Embracing My Internal Autumn
Autumn is well under way here in the southern hemisphere. Although I live in Coastal Central Queensland, I don't really get to see the physical effects of the leaves on the trees changing to their beautiful reds and browns and eventually falling off the tree to leave it bare and barren during the cold, frosty winter.
I have however, been experiencing my own internal season of autumn. I celebrated
my 41st birthday last week and have noticed a subtle, yet significant shift in my energy, focus and attention. I see things that are falling away and rather struggling to fight to hold onto them like I once would have, I am allowing myself to surrender to the universal flow. On so many levels, I am releasing what is no longer serving me.
I've started saying 'no' to more things that once upon a time I would have felt obligated to say yes to in order to keep the status quo. That feels so freeing and liberating on so many levels. My wellbeing is currently my number one priority. And yes that may seem selfish to some, yet I see how greatly my life is affected when I am not this for myself.
I am accepting where I am currently at with my health and seeing this time of deep healing as a blessing rather than a curse. I am choosing to focus my attention on the present moment and on the day that I am in, rather than beating myself up and running an internal commentary that constantly berates myself for not doing more, being more or being someplace else other than where I am currently at.
I am choosing to see the joy in the moments and have allowed myself to achieve one thing a day - no more and if I am not up to that one thing, then I let go of it gently, knowing that tomorrow is a brand new day to get that thing done. No more unrealistic lists of things that appear to be life and death. I have proven to myself that life goes on regardless of what is or isn't ticked off my list that day.
My key takeaways from this internal autumn that I am currently undergoing:
* You are allowed to take the slow lane for as long as it takes to renew
* No is a completely acceptable and allowable response
* The hustle isn't for everyone, slow down and align with what fits right for you
* Things falling away is a natural progression, mother nature shows us that at least once a year. We can't keep holding onto all of the things forever - whether that be physically, emotionally or digitially
* Each day you open your eyes is a blessing. Choose to find joy in the moments.
I'm curious to know if you are also experiencing a season of shedding at the moment? Or if you are currently feeling overwhelmed in life, what could you allow to fall away?
Until next time,
Big Love
Shanelle
Monday 19 April 2021
My happy place. My healing place. My grounding place.
My happy place. My healing place. My grounding place.
Its fair to say the last couple of months have been a little shaky and nothing like I'd envisioned life 'post job' to be. Yet I understand everything happens for a reason and am choosing to see the blessings arising from really slowing my life down
Some days are good and others not so great. My body lets me know when I've overdone it and really need to rest. I've struggled with sharing openly this part of me. I've had a few realisations this morning that I'd like share, in case they resonate and give you permission to take the slow lane for a bit.
Firstly I feel a lot of shame around not functioning fully at 100% all of the time. I've felt defective because a fast-paced life just isn't my thing. Being able to put words around my feelings has been another challenge and I'm working through that at the moment.
My nervous system is currently recalibrating after too many years of being under constant stress and pressure to perform and achieve. This has been a constant theme for much of my life. I grew up in a home fuelled by anxiety and have had jobs that have been fast-paced, so my body is used to running on adrenaline pretty much as a norm. The fact that my health is showing me that things are not in balance shouldn't come as a surprise really. But it's been a major challenge to slow right down, to pause the achievement button for a bit, to allow myself to fully embrace the space of being in between, to become aware that the agenda I'd had for myself is not in alignment with my greater good at this present moment.
There's a lot of "undoing" happening right now on many levels. The greatest gift I can afford myself is time, space and patience to allow my body to come back into its natural balance, where it is thriving rather than merely surviving. I'll post again soon to share with you some of the ways and the processes I'm embracing to help me with this.
And here is your permission slip to slow down, to breathe, to recalibrate, to come back home to you.
Big love
Shanelle xxx
Tuesday 30 March 2021
The Unravelling
Sometimes she blows in softly, with subtle changes in the air. Other times like a giant hurricane, turning your inner world upside down.
In this life we spend much time unravelling the ravellings we have ourselves twisted in. Breaking generational patterns, behaviours and beliefs. Trying to make sense of who we truly are and who we are truly meant to be. After all, what is our purpose here on this Mother Earth?
Emotions override everything. They underpin our thoughts, behaviours and reactions. What are these emotions and where did they come from? Are they even mine or are they ones I’ve been taught to feel? So many questions and often times without obvious answers. The real answers require the peeling back of many layers, a commitment to go deeper than deep, to where the pain point really lies. A true commitment to honour thy self and thy soul. To do the soul work and face the dark night of the soul. To delve where it is dark and coax out the pain. What is it really trying to teach us when we release all of the blame?
Of course the unravelling is a much more pleasant experience when we feel supported and guided, rather than attempting to go all lone-ranger. And the beauty is that you don’t need to unravel alone. Seek out a professional who is qualified in supporting someone to unravel their ravellings, who can truly hold the space. For it’s in this unravelling that we need a sacred space to observe, to ponder, to dissect and unfold. There is no place for judgement or blame in an unravelling. The support of a sacred space holder is quintessential to the unravelling and its effectiveness. One must feel completely safe and completely and wholly trust their support person.
You can’t do a half-assed job of unravelling. For if you do, you’re sure to find yourself back in the unravelling space time and time again. So if you’re ready to unravel your ravellings, be courageous and brave even though you may feel the fear. There is no better time than now to work your way through that which is holding you back from living your most fulfilled and passionate life. When you unravel your ravellings, the light can truly shine from the cracks within.
In love, light and gratitude
Shanelle
Saturday 20 March 2021
What Are You Currently Tolerating?
Have you asked yourself this question lately? You might be surprised at the answer when you take a few minutes to tap out from the merry-go-round of life just to reflect upon this answer for yourself.
So often we get caught up in the cycles of life, accepting things as they are and going about our days because in some sense it’s just - well easier. It’s too much trouble to change the habit/pattern/thought/belief. Well so it seems. For some reason, we’re wired to see change as a painful experience. That’s not necessarily the case though. Self reflection can be a useful tool to see just exactly what we’re putting up with that isn’t in alignment with our authentic self.
It wasn’t until I had printed something the other day, that I realised just how long I had been tolerating working with a piece of equipment that no longer matched my needs. The memory was full and it just didn’t have the capacity to perform at the level I needed it to for me to be able to be functionable in my business. I’ve been Zooming on my phone over the past 12 months, and that’s made presenting my own classes via mobile quite an interesting feat.
All too often we adjust to our situation rather than changing the situation. Had I purchased a new computer 12 months ago, when I knew I had outgrown the old one, the past 12 months would have been a much more pleasant experience technologically for me, given how much time we’ve spent online this past year. Maybe you need to get your car fixed, or the dishwasher fixed, or stop watching the news because it’s impacting your mental wellbeing, or start making better food choices to lead you in the direction of health, or clear out the clutter that’s stopping your home from feeling like a beautiful temple or whatever it is that you are currently putting up that is stopping you from being in your zone of genius. Your zone of genius is where you function the best - with ease and grace (and very few curse words!)
So I challenge you to sit with this question for yourself. Make space and create some silence in your day to hear the answer. You may want to journal this or you may want to ask yourself this in your meditation practice. I’d love to hear what you are currently tolerating. Because once we have awareness, we can then start to take action.
Big Love
Shanelle
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Thursday 18 March 2021
Lessons Learned One Month After Leaving My Job and Stepping Fully Into My Business
There is a transition phase when moving from one life chapter to another. One just does not simply jump from a career spanning 13 years into a business that has all of it’s sh*t together with all parts moving easily and effortlessly with sunshine, rainbows and lollipops! I am now solely responsible to myself and to my business for being the face, the marketer, the ‘doer’, the accountant, the cleaner, the social media person ….. The list goes on! (I do enjoy the multiple hats just quietly, some days it gets a little daunting!)
Transition is a natural process and I feel as if I am actually going through a metamorphosis physically as well as on a soul level. I wrote in my journal the other day that I felt like my butterfly wings have literally fallen off! My body has highlighted some physical challenges which are currently being dealt with under the guidance of my GP. They have been humming away in the background, but since having the time to slow down and reduce my adrenaline and stress levels, they’ve amped it up a notch to let me know that I really must do something about them - no more putting things off! I am also taking the time to look at the underlying spiritual aspects of what is going on, because that’s my jam and I love looking deeper into things. This means learning to surrender to what is, resting when I need to and not taking on too much or trying to fill my days with unnecessary ‘stuff’. I am here for quality in my services, not quantity - I don’t need to serve the masses or be booked back to back day in day out to be ‘successful’ and fulfilled.
I learned today that I am not alone with my experiences (see points 1 & 2), and we are never as alone in our experiences as we may think we are. Worrying unnecessarily is such a waste of energy!
Help is always on hand when we need it, it’s just a matter of reaching out and asking for it (this has been a HUGE lesson from a life-long helper who has struggled to ask for help herself!)
Learning to work with my natural flow allows me to work when I am at my best and rest when I need it. Mornings are great for me, by the afternoon, things start to go a little pear-shaped. I am learning to lean into that more and just do the important stuff in the mornings while I am able, the rest can wait.
Time flies extra fast when you love what you do, when you get to create your days your way. This means that it’s really important to focus on 1 or 2 priorities and get them done, rather than ‘multi-tasking’ and getting nowhere fast.
The beach is a great place to take a breather - whether it be first thing in the morning or stepping away from my desk for 30 minutes to enjoy a quiet cuppa listening to the soothing sounds of the waves, my bare feet planted in the sand and quite often enjoying a slow walk along the foreshore.
Rituals, self care and soul care must be prioritised. If I am not functioning at my optimum, I am not in the best space to serve and work with my clients, and I am doing them and myself a disservice.
Shanelle
Sunday 14 March 2021
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Sunday 7 February 2021
Failure - Friend or Foe?
Tuesday 25 February 2020
The Link Between Our Body & Our Emotions
Tuesday 5 November 2019
When In Doubt..... Write
It's been quite some time since I've posted on here. I've been getting some pretty big nudges to get the words out of my head and out there. I am aiming to ease into posting more regularly. And talking nudges, this is something I came across in an old journal from 2017: